Nightmares have troubled me since I was very young. Of
course, at a young age, most were about getting left behind or losing my mom in
a crowd. But occasionally, they were very disconcerting…

I had recurring nightmares that still haunt me today, though
none should be described here. Two themes occurred frequently in my nightmares,
however, and one was… arachnids. That’s correct; I am
terrified of spiders. I believe the term is “Arachnophobia”.
The
second theme that often appeared in my nightmares was a ‘chase’; I continuously
had to run from villains, whether they be torch-and-pitchfork-wielding
townsfolk, or an evil doer with a dagger.
What made me think of creating this blog today is that last
night my oldest son (aged 3 1/2) woke me out of a deep sleep with fearful
cries. He claimed that Daddy had put someone else in his car seat and drove
home without him, leaving him at the beach. Now, I haven’t the faintest idea
what happened to inspire this fear of being left behind, but it reminded me of
some old nightmares that I had had as a child and it made me wonder about what
is frightening from a child’s perspective.
Upon reflection, I can clearly see the similarities between
my son’s nightmares and my own as a young child. And, of course, after having
experienced the terror of constant nightmares, I am confident that I know how to
comfort him.
As an adult, I tend to calm myself after a nightmare by
reading a book. As a child I simply lay there in the darkness or called for my
mom. And as a mom with a child who has nightmares, I am happy to go and spend some time with him in the middle of the night. I think that having experienced nightmares, myself, that I have empathy for what he is going through.
What about you? Did
you have any recurring nightmares as a child? Do you still? What did you do to
calm yourself down after?